kittiesandolives asked: Hey, I really like your latest comic. I'm lucky enough to have someone who is patient with my mental illnesses. I don't doubt it's really tough for him, but it has given me a constant "safe person" in my life - someone who won't trigger me and that I can talk with about my depression. So yeah, really happy to see that represented.
Those people are treasures. Seriously. But they are out there, and the more resources we make the easier living with people with illnesses will be. I know a lot of my comics tend to show negative behavior, and I have to make an effort to show positive behavior as well. In fact, this comic was supposed to be more negative but I ran across a piece of advice while researching this that said that if you can’t have sex then you should try to console the person by just cuddling. I thought it would be a way to insert some advice while not being overt about it.
ghoa asked: yeah thats life I guess you don't always take exactly what you've given. thank you anyway and keep up the good work
… And sometimes people are actually *nicer* because of their depression. On the other hand, a jerk with depression is still a jerk. Depression can’t forgive *everything*.
ghoa asked: my last relationship was with a sick person. we were great only when we were together, not when we were apart (I believe we were extremely depended on each other and it was a mistake). when he started taking antidepressants he started being distant and fucked me over. now I am the one without the courage to live and the nervous breakdowns.
This is not uncommon, and it’s something I’ve been working on for a future strip. Make no mistake, depression can ruin relationships, especially if you don’t know what you’re up against. I’m sorry to hear about this, it’s not entirely fair.
badoutlawwolf asked: Unfortunately, most people that I know are the ones with the natural instinct to runaway from those who need help rather than approach them, or even turn away when help is asked for. I've had rough luck with both, so I may or may not have a distorted view on the character of people in general. Just another thing among many that keep me from even breaching the possibility of a relationship, even with depression. I'd also like to know if this being with others thing you quoted is backed anywhere.
Hey, if you’re not ready, you’re not ready. Nobody is arguing about that. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it is a personal choice. I’m on a smartphone so it makes it difficult to find and link things but a Google search for “depression relationships” should yield results. Now, try to find support for the idea that people who are depressed should isolate themselves, that’s the real trick.
badoutlawwolf asked: I don't know how others feel, but I could never allow myself to have a girlfriend as long as I continue to suffer from depression. Even if it became an option, or if she were to ask, I would have to say no because of how much of a mess my life is right now and I wouldn't want them to subject themselves to that. I also don't want to learn how to become dependent on the presence of another. Getting used to being alone has helped me to avoid getting my hopes up of having anyone to help/hear me.
That’s your own personal choice, and I respect that. If you’re not comfortable entering a relationship at this point because of your illness, naturally, that’s entirely up to you. Some people do enter a relationship, and that is their choice as well, and I respect that choice as well. We can all decide for ourselves whether or not we are ready for a relationship, and there should be no pressure either way. Personally, being in a relationship makes me try a lot harder to get out of the hole than when I’m alone, but naturally one has to be in a relationship with a person who is especially understanding. Just for the record, being with people, as difficult as it is, helps recovery more than being alone.
almondarmin asked: I just want to say that your inclusiveness is super rad. Thanks for doing what you do.
Thank you, but I still get complaints about not being inclusive *enough*. I had a complaint the other day on Reddit that all the characters were good-looking. Inclusiveness is just not something I’m going to make everyone happy with, but trying to make everyone happy is an impossibility anyways.
animazed asked: i've lost the desire to try and get better. what is there to do at that point?
One can’t be forced to get better so the only thing you can do is survive today and hopefully you’ll feel different in the future. Just surviving isn’t a bad thing when that’s all you can manage.
mattiascrowe asked: We're not going to talk about how I come to searching "depression comics" at three in the morning, but knowing you're out there is really, really reassuring. I'm going to start reading tomorrow, as a person that is desperately trying to find a way to communicate how I feel and turn themselves to doing the creative things I grew up doing, it really helps that you exist. I'd be crying with happiness. if I was good at that :P
You’re welcome and thank you for looking me up. I wish you luck with your creative endeavors.